Gujaratis,
known for being mirthful, jovial and fun-loving, have a rich history of
indigenous customs and rituals. Gujarati weddings are a reflection of all these
and more. With a dose of simplicity and ingenuity, Gujarati wedding rituals are
a true embodiment of their vibrant culture. Unique customs and amusing rituals make it a fun experience to
reckon with. Let's take a sneak-peek into the same.
PRE-WEDDING
RITUALS
Chandlo maatli:
The chandlo maatli ritual is an occasion where both the families of the bride
and groom meet to fix the wedding date. The bride's father applies the chandlo
(a vermillion mark) on the groom's forehead and accepts him as his son. The
bride, on the other hand, carries the maatli (a pot) filled with goodies for the
groom and his family symbolizing good luck. The couple then exchanges rings and
are blessed by five married women from each side of the families.
Ganesha sthapan:
Signaling the start of the festivities, the blessings from Lord Ganesha are
invoked by both the families at their respective homes. The puja is presided
over by the paternal aunts who are presented with lavish gifts.
Mandva mahurat:
Bearing a deep religious significance, the parents of the bride seek the
blessings of Mother Earth to start commencing the digging of the earth to set up
the mandva (the platform where the wedding rites will take place).
Griha shanti:
The griha shanti ceremony is conducted to seek blessings from the nine planets
so as to remove all possible obstacles before the wedding. It is conducted at
both the bride and groom's respective homes.
Mehendi:
Though meant to be an intimate gathering of the female relatives and friends of
the bride, nowadays, mehendi functions are occasions of revelry and merriment.
While the mehendi is being put, relevant songs are sung by the ladies
present.
Garba:
Generally on the evening of the mehendi, the garba night is held where members
of both families meet and mingle without the formality of the wedding. Dressed
in traditional finery, it is a fun tradition before the wedding.
Pithi:
Held a day before the wedding, the pithi (a mixture of sandalwood, turmeric,
saffron and rose water) is made by the bride/groom's paternal aunt and blessed
by a pandit. Henceforth, the female relatives apply the same on the bride/groom
for a healthy glow and supple skin.
Mameru:
The last of the pre-wedding rituals, the mameru ceremony is when the bride
receives gifts from her maternal uncle that includes the traditional paanetar
(the bridal silk sari with red border) and choodo (ivory bangles).
WEDDING
RITUALS
Varghodo:
Dressed in finery and carrying a katar (a small dagger), the groom sets off on a
decorated mare for the wedding venue with his friends and family. Before he
embarks on his journey, the groom's sister wards off the evil eye with some
coins blessed by the pandit.
Jaan/Ponkvu:
When the groom arrives at the wedding venue, he seeks blessing from his
mother-in-law by bowing down his head and clutching his nose. He is welcomed by
his mother-in-law with an aarti and is pulled ahead by grabbing his nose. This
playful ritual is meant to remind the groom that they are giving their precious
daughter to him.
Varmala:
Escorted by her maternal uncle to the mandva, the bride garlands the groom which
is then reciprocated by the groom.
Madhuparka:
The groom is then given a mixture of milk and honey, and welcomed into the
mandap. Meanwhile, his shoes are stolen by the bride's relatives only to be
returned in exchange of some money.
Antarpaat:
The bride is now led to the mandap by her mama. The antarpaat (a curtain)
separating the couple is lowered when they exchange garlands once
again.
Kanyadaan:
In front of the sacred fire, the wedding rituals begin with the kanyadaan where
the parents of the bride give her away to her husband. The bride's father washes
the groom's feet which symbolizes their giving away of Goddess Lakshmi to her
consort Lord Vishnu.
Hasta milap:
The bride's sari is tied to the scarf/stole of the groom symbolizing the merging
of two souls. The couple is then showered with rose petals and grains of
rice.
Pheras:
The couple now goes around the sacred fire seven times, each circle representing
a vow. Amidst chants and prayers, the couple is officially wed.
Saptapadi:
The groom helps the bride touch seven betel nuts with her right toe while they
recite the vows together.
Saubhagyavati bhava:
In this ritual, seven married women from the bride's side whisper their
blessings in her ear.
Chero pakaryo:
This funny ritual entails the groom tugging at his mother-in-law's sari asking
for more gifts. Her sari is then filled with gifts from other relatives and
later given to the groom.
Aashirvaad:
The wedding ceremony formally ends with the couple taking blessing from their
elders.
POST-WEDDING
RITUALS
Vidaai:
The bride is bid a tearful adieu by her family, friends and
relatives.
Ghar nu Lakshmi:
This ritual marks the couple's entry at the groom's house where she is welcomed
as Goddess Lakshmi. A pitcher filled with rice is to be spilled by the bride
with her right foot, symbolizing wealth and prosperity for her new
home.
Aeki beki:
The newlyweds are finally made to engage in a fun activity to end the
festivities. A ring and some coins are thrown in a tray filled with water, milk
and sindoor. The one who finds the ring four out of seven times is believed to
rule the household.
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