Simplicity
and straightforwardness well sums up an Oriya wedding. A wedding truly reflects
the cultural essence of a community. An Oriya wedding sticks true to this
statement. While weddings no doubt are a joyous occasion, the Oriya weddings are
devoid of any extravagance or opulence. Let us find out the simple and essential customs that constitutes a wedding of the
Oriyas.
PRE-WEDDING
RITUALS
Nirbandh:
This ritual formally marks the engagement of the couple. The fathers of both the
bride and the groom take an oath that they will wed their children. It takes
place at the bride's place. Interestingly, the bride and the groom themselves do
not participate in the ritual.
Jayee anukolo:
This marks the initiation of the wedding rituals in an Oriya wedding. This is
followed by the distribution of nimantran patras (invitation cards) for the
upcoming wedding. The first card is sent to the family deity or Lord Jagannath
(in Puri). The bride/groom's maternal uncle receives the second invitation
card.
Mangan:
During mangan, the bride is blessed and is applied haladi bata (turmeric paste)
by seven married women. She is then taken for the ceremonial bath. This is done
prior to the D-day for her beautification.
Jairagodo anukolo:
This ritual marks the stoking of the fire after the bride is given her
ceremonial bath.
Diya mangula puja:
The diya mangula puja refers to the prayers offered at the devi's (goddess)
temple. The female barber of the family offers the bride's wedding sari,
sindoor, bangles and toe rings to the goddess, invoking happiness and prosperity
for the bride in her conjugal life.
WEDDING
RITUALS
Barajatri:
Barajatri refers to the arrival of the groom along with his kinsmen at the
wedding venue with much pomp and gaiety. On his arrival, the groom is welcomed
by the bride's mother with an aarti and a tilak of rice. The other members are
also warmly greeted and escorted with respect inside the venue.
Baadu pani gaadhua:
As soon as the groom sets his foot inside the venue, somebody from the bride's
family informs the bride of the same. She is then taken for her ceremonial bath
just before the rituals actually begin.
Kanyadaan:
The wedding rituals begin with the kanyadaan ceremony wherein the bride's father
gives her away to the groom with the promise that he will take good care of his
loving daughter. The ceremony takes place at the bibaha bedi (a structure that
is decorated with lots of fresh flowers and leaves).
Saptapadi:
Saptapadi refers to the seven rounds around the fire by the couple. Seven heaps
of rice symbolizing the saptakulaparwata (the seven hills) are worshiped by the
couple.
Haatha ghanti:
This ritual brings an end to the wedding rituals. Here, the couple offers lajja
(puffed rice) as ahuti (sacrifice) to the holy fire. The bride's brother,
standing close to the couple offers the lajja to the bride who then offers it to
the fire jointly with her husband amidst the chanting of mantras and
shlokas.
Sala bidha:
At this point, there is a fun ritual which involves the bride's brother (sala)
giving the groom a punch (bidha) on his back so as to remind him of his duties
towards his sister.
POST-WEDDING
RITUALS
Kauri khela:
Kauri khela refers to the playing of kauri (conch shell) by the newlywed couple.
It is believed to bring wealth and harmony. The groom holds a kauri in his fist
which the bride tries to open with both her hands. In the next round, the bride
makes a tight fist with both her hands and keeps the kauri inside. The groom
tries to open it using his single hand.
Saasu dahi pakhala khia:
After the games are over, the mother of the bride makes the groom sit on her lap
and feeds him curd pakhala (rice and curd) along with baigana poda (spicy mashed
eggplant).
Bahuna:
Bahuna refers to the tradition of mourning with rhythmic songs (bahuna gita
composed by anonymous poets) narrating different tales by the bride's mother.
Elderly women of the house also join in while bidding adieu to the
bride.
Grihapravesh:
The newlyweds are greeted warmly at the groom's house by his mother (who does
not participate in the wedding ceremonies at the bride's place). As the bride is
considered an avatar of Goddess Lakshmi, she is made to enter the household by
gently spreading the rice kept in a vessel at the threshold.
Chauthi/Basara rati:
This refers to the fourth day after the wedding when the newlyweds spend their
first night together. During the day, a puja is performed which includes burning
a coconut to roast its inside. Meanwhile, the couple's room is decorated with
fresh flowers for the night. As night dawns, the bride carries a glass of kesara
doodh (saffron milk) for the groom. She also lights up the basara dipa (an
earthen lamp) beside the bed as a symbol of long-lasting glowing relationship.
The couple is then made to eat the roasted coconut after which they finally
retire for the night.
Ashtha mangala:
On the eighth day after the wedding, the bride and the groom visits the bride's
maternal home. They are treated to a lavish feast comprising of authentic Oriya
dishes. This marks the end of all festivities related to the
wedding.
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